If you and your partner are looking to spice up your relationship, why not try planning a kinky weekend getaway? There are many reasons to do this; maybe you have kids at home and can’t be as adventurous with your sex life as you’d like, or perhaps it’s just been a while since you last tried anything new in the bedroom.
The wonderful news is that there are plenty of ways to take your romance to the next level while enjoying yourself in other ways, even if it’s just for the weekend!
A weekend getaway with your partner can do wonders for your love life and your relationship in general. Studies have shown that regular travel can improve communication, spark romance, and increase couples’ emotional intimacy and sexual satisfaction.
Even better, vacation sex is an excellent opportunity to work on both new and established kinks in the bedroom with less inhibition than usual, so if you’re looking to introduce something kinky into your relationship, this is the perfect time to do it! Here are some great kinky weekend getaway ideas to help you plan your next trip.
Ideas for your Kinky Getaways
Fancy Hotels
While most hotels provide at least one kink-friendly amenity, a few go above and beyond. Kink-friendly hotels with excellent all-inclusive room service boast unique suites with amenities like king-size beds, silk sheets, ocean views, whirlpool tubs, sex swings, and more.
It’s essential to consider your comfort level as a couple before booking a hotel room on your kinky vacation. While many excellent hotels offer luxurious accommodations, hotel staff may be ill-equipped to deal with non-traditional requests. So it may be better to rent a chateau or villa, or even an entire island!
This is especially true if you don’t want anyone else in on your secret. When renting a room, make sure it will accommodate all of your desired fetishes – including those that involve restraints or toys.
You can also hire security guards who provide 24/7 services to ensure your privacy. Be sure that everyone involved in planning and executing your trip knows about any concerns you have about keeping your room safe; that way, everyone can remain relaxed and focused on having fun!
Cruises
For couples who want to get away but don’t want to spend hours sitting in the car, cruising is a great option. But does it work for kinksters? Certainly!
One of the best ways to have a good kinky time on vacation is to cruise. No matter what you’re into, there’s always something for everyone to explore on a cruise ship.
Not only do cruises offer you a good mix of vanilla and kink, but most lines offer specialty workshops that are tailored specifically to your interests. The most significant benefit of cruising is that it comes with plenty of activities — some kink-focused, some not.
One of the best aspects of cruising is an all-inclusive vacation. Not only do you have a ton of access to food, alcohol, and entertainment, but these are all either inclusive or included in a package with your cruise.
You don’t need to worry about planning out extra activities because everything is already set up. All you need to do is arrive at your destination and let fun happen!
Sex on the Beach
Take advantage of secluded beaches (Like the Big Sur of California) and enjoy some alone time together with some amazing views!
Beach sex isn’t exactly legal, but it’s a lot of fun, making it worth the risk. Just make sure you don’t get caught!
Go during the nighttime, as it’s more secluded (and romantic) and you’ll be less likely to be caught. If someone does pass by, be sure to remain calm and cover exposed areas with a towel.
You can read my full guide of tips for having the best beach sex possible right here!
Hiking and Trekking
If you live in a big city or like to vacation in one, trekking is a great way to get back to nature—and experiment with kink. The unpredictability of nature will create an air of uncertainty between you and your lover that’s perfect for a kinky play.
All it takes is creating a safe word to call things off if things start to feel too uncomfortable; after all, safety should be a top priority when exploring the new sexual territory.
Try not to plan out too much; instead, decide on a destination together and pack accordingly.
Don’t bring anything more than you need: You don’t want to lug around any toys or supplies as you climb mountains, hike through forest paths, paddle down rivers, etc.
Admittedly, hiking sex requires some courage! Thankfully, I’ve written a complete beginner’s guide to hiking sex for you to check out for lots of great advice and tips.
Camping
If you’re feeling adventurous, go camping. Getting lost in nature has been shown to improve relationships and lower stress levels—and it’s cheaper than almost any other option out there. Plus, getting dressed up in all your kink gear is sure to spice things up.
It always feels great outdoors to have a round or two of your vacation sex. The best part? No matter how loud you get (or how many times one of you pretends to be kidnapped), no one will care!
Since you won’t have access to a comfortable bed and you never know what the condition of the floor will be like so it’s best to bring your beddings so you can relax and sleep well. However, be aware that state parks often require a permit; check with your local department before going on an adventure.
Alternatively, if you’d like a little more privacy—and more flexibility in terms of what you do within your designated campsite—you can always splurge on a glamping trip.
Glamping is essentially glamorous camping, and resorts will set up comfy teepees (many with beds) in their designated areas along with all sorts of fancy amenities—like fire pits and hot tubs!
Strip Club Adventure
For those seeking a bold and unconventional twist to their kinky weekend getaway, consider incorporating a trip to a reputable strip club. These establishments offer a unique blend of adult entertainment, providing an opportunity to witness sensual performances in an alluring atmosphere.
Beforehand, ensure open communication and shared boundaries with your partner to guarantee a comfortable and consensual experience. Keep in mind that respecting the performers and the rules of the establishment is paramount for an enjoyable evening that aligns with the spirit of your kinky escapade.
Visiting one of the best strip clubs can add an exciting element to your weekend, creating lasting memories and igniting a spark of passion in your intimate connection.
Water Sports
A lot of couples enjoy water sports. If you’re looking to get wet and wild with your partner, try water skiing or wakeboarding. For those who have never tried these activities before, you may need a little practice (or luck) before you master them!
Just be sure to wear a life jacket, in case things don’t go as planned! After all, safety first! Also, if that’s not your thing, consider scuba diving.
It will take some training, but it could be worth it—these underwater adventures are pretty kinky and romantic too. And if you really want to get adventurous, snorkeling is another option. You can explore reefs, shipwrecks, tropical fish; it might be just what you both need to spice up your relationship.
There’s no shame in playing it safe—but there’s also no harm in taking risks either…if that’s what gets you going!
A Raunchy Road Trip
If you and your significant other are looking to try something new in your relationship, why not take an adventurous road trip? Whether you’re headed out of town or just across town, taking a road trip is an easy to create fun new memories.
Here are some things to keep in mind: Be spontaneous – and explore new locations throughout your city or while you drive where you can enjoy unplanned activities and spend some private time together.
For example, you can go on a picnic while watching airplanes overhead; stop by one of that coin-operated fortune-telling machines; grab coffee at an off-the-beaten-path coffee shop; skip rocks into water (and make sure someone falls in!), etc.
A Kinky Dinner Date
Invite your partner over for an intimate night in. The lights in the room are low, candles are lit, and soft music is playing in the background… But that’s not all. There’s also rope tied around one of your wrists (this is an example of soft bondage).
You take turns feeding each other from across the table; meanwhile, you can both fantasize about what will happen when dessert ends…and begins. Sounds sexy, doesn’t it?
Bonus: This setting makes it easy to indulge any foodie fetishes as well as set up rules like ‘no kissing until we finish our plate or let me feed you if I want dessert tonight!’
Best part? It only requires setting up once and won’t leave any mess behind after dinner’s done.
Top Tips
Research your destination
Whether you’re looking to heat things up on your next vacation or spend some quality time with your significant other, it helps to research your destination to understand what sort of environment you’ll be traveling to.
Find a travel site that can tell you which destinations are known for their nightlife (or romance) and make sure that those locations are on your shortlist. Do they have kink festivals? Sex clubs? Will it be easy to find a room with a Jacuzzi or will you need to plan ahead?
This will help you equip yourself well before you travel to your perfect place for the weekend.
Have an honest conversation
When it comes to relationships, communication is key. Before you, two head out on a kinky vacation, make sure you’re both on board with trying new things (and having open minds about it).
The last thing anyone wants is for someone else to feel pressured or left out.
If you’re going to be adventurous in your relationship, do it willingly—not because of an expectation from someone else.
After all, good sex should never be forced; there’s no greater turnoff than putting pressure on someone when it just doesn’t work for them.
Listen to your partner and communicate openly about what you want and don’t want; the chances are that many more fetishes have yet to be discovered!
Spend quality time together
The best thing to do when you’re planning a kinky weekend trip with your partner is to spend quality time together. In doing so, you’ll be able to get to know one another on a deeper level, and hopefully, discover new kinks of your own.
Take turns listening to each other—not just about your sexual desires, but also about your life and where you want it to go in the future. Then discuss how you can help fulfill each other’s wishes and needs.
It’s OK if you don’t have all the answers yet; keep talking and sharing until you figure them out. If anything comes up that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, set boundaries together right away.
Relax, reconnect, and get it on
A kink-filled weekend trip may sound like a dream, but it’s an excellent way to rekindle the passion in a relationship and start planning to spice up your sex life at home. The idea is to forget about what’s holding you back and get away from distractions—no kids, no jobs, no chores—and focus on each other.
It sounds clichéd, but it’s true: it takes effort to keep a spark alive after many years together. And you can use these ideas any time of year!
It’s a great opportunity to enjoy the weekend vacation with your partner. And do not forget that some small gifts always make your lover happy. The key is to approach things with intentionality rather than spontaneity.
Planning a kinky weekend is an excellent opportunity to have some fun with your loved one in a new, exciting, and romantic environment, to create unforgettable memories of your love and make all your wishes come true.
