Sexuality is a spectrum, and sexuality can be fluid. It isn’t always perfectly clear for everyone who is straight or gay or bi. For some, it just comes naturally. Age, gender identity, relationship status, orientation and so many other factors can influence how you feel. And as amazing as that is, it often leads to a scary place where genitalia is seen as “real” or “not real” when it comes to sexuality: specifically penis toys.
There is a lot of information online about packers. Some people use them to replace the missing parts in their body, while others just prefer the look. Let’s cut through the clutter and talk about what a packer is and why you might want one.
What’s a Packer?
In short, a packer dildo is a fake penis. If you want your body to look like you have male genitalia even though you don’t, a packer can help.
Many people looking to begin their transition, or those who have already started but haven’t found a surgeon yet, may be wondering what a packer is.
A packer is typically worn in a harness under clothing and used to give yourself an erection when desired. It’s essentially a prosthetic, phallic shaped object for trans men (or anyone else!) that allows them to appear more masculine without surgery.
What Are Packers Used For
Trans and non-binary people most commonly use packers to help present themselves with a more male or masculine appearance. While they’re not explicitly sexual, they can be used during sexual activities, including masturbation.
Their design means that many are compatible with the strap on harness. The two main types of packers—those that mimic full penises and those that provide an outline of male genitalia—are used for different purposes by trans men.
For example, someone who wants to have penetrative sex may wish for a fuller type of packer, while someone who wants to add some definition may prefer one that provides only an outline.
Many trans men also use packers as part of their everyday life because they feel it helps them pass better as males when wearing clothes without revealing their genitals—for example, wearing padding in the front of the pants or underwear to give the appearance of having a penis.
(Note: Not all packers are explicitly designed for transgender people; there are also models intended primarily for cisgender women.)
Common Mistakes When Choosing A Packer
The most common mistake that people make when choosing their first packer is getting something too big. If you are starting out, it’s better to start small and slowly work your way up. Another mistake some men make is not knowing what they want their penis to look like before shopping.
Some men may find it easier to visualize themselves as male if they have something to hold while shopping for their first packer. It can also be helpful when you are holding your potential packer while looking at yourself in a mirror so you can see how your new penis will look from different angles and perspectives.
When it comes to packer dildos, there’s only one question you need to ask yourself: what do you want out of your packer sex toy? Whether you want something realistic or not, something that can be used in conjunction with other sex toys, or to enjoy the simplest packer possible, there’s a packing dildo for you!
What To Look For In A Good Packer
When it comes to packer dildos, not all are created equal. There are many factors you should consider when shopping for a good packer. Here’s what you need to know about sizing, shape, and material before you even think about clicking Add To Cart.
First and foremost, consider size. If you identify as female or have been assigned female at birth (AFAB), then look for an average-sized phallus with realistic detailing. Unfortunately, many transmasculine folks fall between sizes, making it hard to find a balance between too big or too small. On top of that, some packers come in multiple sizes, which is great if you’re not sure what size will work best for your body.
If you’re looking for soft packers, something softer than a silicone, try one made from thermoplastic elastomer (TPE). TPE is a soft packing material that mimics skin and feels like real flesh when warmed up in hot water or cooled down in cold water.
Unfortunately, TPE dildos are also porous, so they can’t be sterilized with boiling water—you should use a 10% bleach solution instead. However, many people find that TPE packers feel more realistic than silicone packers because of their squishy texture.
In terms of shape, there are two main categories of packers: those meant to resemble flaccid penises and those intended to resemble erect penises. Flaccid penis packers tend to be smaller than their erect counterparts— just over 4 inches long when soft—and they’re usually not detailed in any way.
Erect or hard packing dildos can come in various shapes and sizes, but most have veins or some other form of detailing on them. If you’re looking for something realistic that can stand up on its own, then an erect dildo might be a better option for you than a flaccid one.
Top Packing dildo for Beginners
Here are our top picks for best packer dildo for men. Men who are new to packing may be overwhelmed by all of their options, but rest assured that we have found a few quality packers that will suit even those on a limited budget. Don’t forget to check out our guide on choosing your First Packer if you aren’t sure where to start.
Mr. Limpy is a friendly packer, ideal for novices or those who want an introductory size and shape. This product is perfect for those just starting out in packing or anyone who wants to try out different forms and sizes without breaking the bank. With a combination of realism and affordability, Mr. Limpy is the best option for first-time packers!
Mr. Limpy is a basic soft penis packer that has been around for a while and is still one of the most popular alternatives available today. It has a realistic appearance and a low price, making it ideal for novices or those who want to experiment with different forms and sizes without breaking the budget.
Mr. Limpy is constructed of elastomer, which is prone to ripping if not handled properly, therefore wear packing underwear when using this product! The whole list of ingredients isn’t available to the public, but it includes minor amounts of mineral oil, so wear Mr. Limpy with packed underwear or some form of barrier between your skin and Mr. Limpy.
The Lou STP
If you’re looking for a packer that can help you stand-to-pee, The Lou is the perfect choice. This STP features a super soft packer silicone shaft and textured balls, so it looks just like an actual penis when tucked in.
The silicone is firm enough to hold its shape and be worn comfortably. It comes in both dark and light skin tones, and there are multiple options for different packages (the base price is for a packer without balls).
The skin-like texture makes it feel like your own erection! And because this packer has an attached funnel for peeing, you don’t even have to undress in the bathroom – just aim and go! So grab your jeans or swimsuit and go out for some fun!
Trans Packer Uncut
The Trans Packer is the ideal packing solution for guys who want a bulge for their underwear and swimwear. This realistic silicone bulge is designed to look and feel great, even in your everyday wear.
Don’t give up on that perfect suit or swimsuit just because you want to transition. The Trans Packer is here to help! This silicone packer features a “veined” design, a wide base for comfortable packing.
The Trans Packer looks great, feels great – even if you aren’t packing often, it can be a nice companion piece to any outfit.
I hope that this guide has been a valuable resource in learning more about packer dildos. From how they’re used to the different types of options available, it’s my hope that you’ll have a deeper understanding of what to expect from one.
In the end, remember that all trans men and gender queer people are different, and we all have different needs when it comes to what makes us feel good. That said, these toys can be wonderful additions to your bedroom playtime, and I recommend them for anyone who is looking for a simple toy or lifelike sculpture to add that extra special something to their fun!
It may take some time to find just what works best for you (especially because many of us are on a budget), but I’m certain that once you do find your perfect fit, you’ll appreciate it even more than anticipated.
In addition to offering endless pleasure, they’re also super useful when traveling or going out in public! So what are you waiting for? Go get yourself a realistic bulge and express yourself the right way!