If you’ve ever had sex with your girlfriend and felt like she was loose, you might have wondered if it’s normal or if something isn’t right. The truth is that vaginal loosening happens to almost every woman at some point in her life, though it’s something we rarely talk about openly or willingly.
But it’s something you should know about, because in many cases the feeling of your girlfriend being loose isn’t a sign of damage, disease, or something else negative — sometimes it’s completely normal!
Here’s why your girlfriend feels loose sometimes and what you can do about it.
What is vaginal looseness?
Vaginal looseness is also known as vaginal laxity or vaginal atrophy. It occurs when the pelvic floor muscles lose their strength and elasticity, causing the vaginal wall to become weak and floppy.
This can lead to painful intercourse or even difficulty inserting tampons into the vagina due to reduced muscle tone. It is a common complaint among women who have given birth. The vagina can become stretched out during childbirth, which can make it feel looser than normal.
This is completely normal and your girlfriend’s body will return to its pre-pregnancy state within a few weeks or months after delivery. However, if the problem persists for longer than six months, this could be an indication that something else is wrong.
Can sex really make your vagina looser?
The idea that having sex frequently can loosen a vagina is largely a myth. Historically, reference to a loose vagina has been used as a way to shame women for their sex lives. It isn’t rooted in any fact or science.
The vagina is made up of muscle tissue, and like any other muscle in a woman’s body, it can and will contract in response to physical activity. Some women say they feel looser during sex because they have more awareness of that sensation than others do.
Others notice vaginal laxity after childbirth, when hormonal changes and decreased estrogen levels cause tissues to soften and relax. But neither of these situations has anything to do with too much or too vigorous sex (or exercise). Women who experience vaginal looseness or pain after having an orgasm need to see a doctor for treatment.
What causes Vagina looseness?
Every woman is different and all vaginal walls are created differently. There are a number of factors that can contribute to how you feel. This can be very embarrassing and frustrating for any woman who’s been affected by vaginal looseness because it causes feelings of insecurity about their relationship as well as worries over physical appearance.
If your partner’s vagina honestly and truly does ~feel~ loose to you, that’s a matter of perception and can happen for a few reasons.
Here are some natural factors that may cause to loosening of the vaginal muscles.
Childbirth
Hormones are a big part of it. Your girlfriend’s body is going through a lot of changes during pregnancy, and that can affect how much her vagina changes in size. Her vagina may feel looser than usual because your vaginal muscle is stretched out and weakened during childbirth.
When you give birth, the baby passes through a small opening in the pelvis called the birth canal. The pelvic muscles in this area help support the uterus (womb), bladder, kidneys and rectum.
The pelvic floor muscles are like hammocks that support these organs inside the abdominal cavity (belly). During pregnancy and childbirth, they stretch out to make room for the growing baby inside the belly. This stretching contributes to temporary slack vagina after having a baby.
Sitting for long periods
Sitting for long periods can weaken the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. Over time, this can cause those muscles to become weak or tight, which can make the vagina feel loose.
If your girlfriend sits for long periods at work or while driving, trying to get up and walking around every 30 minutes to help prevent this problem.
Pelvic floor muscles aren’t just important for bladder control — they also help increase pleasure during sex. When these muscles are strong, they contract involuntarily during orgasm. Sitting for long periods can weaken these muscles because they don’t get any exercise when the person is not standing up or walking around.
The more often and longer your girlfriend sits down, the more likely it is that these muscles will become weak and stretched out from lack of use over time — especially if she’s pregnant or obese.
Menopause
Menopause can make a vagina feel loose. This is because estrogen levels decrease and become more irregular. This means there is less blood flow to the area, which causes the vaginal walls to become thinner and thinner over time.
The vagina is made of muscle tissue, which becomes lax due to lack of estrogen during menopause. This can cause women to experience vaginal looseness or even pain during intercourse.
The second reason is that menopause causes atrophy of the vagina muscles. Atrophy means tissue shrinkage, so when menopause occurs, the vaginal walls begin to shrivel up and become smaller in size.
Too much lube can make you feel loose
This is a possibility! Use just enough lube to keep things comfortable and problem-free. Using too much lube can make you feel like your girlfriend’s vagina is loose because there’s not enough friction. It will take away from that natural feeling and instead give you an unnatural feeling.
Another downside of using too much lube is that you won’t feel any vaginal contractions after orgasm; these contractions usually happen as a result of intercourse and provide additional stimulation for both partners.
Vaginas naturally produce some lubrication when they are turned on. This lubrication produces a natural amount of friction, which gives a nice sensation during sex.
Pelvic floor disorder
The vagina is made up of several different muscles, including the pelvic muscles, which support and hold up the uterus and bladder. When the pelvic muscles become weak or damaged, they may not be able to do their job as well. This can lead to vaginal laxity, which makes a vagina feel loose.
The most common type of pelvic floor disorder is called pelvic organ prolapse. It occurs when one or more of these organs protrude through the vaginal opening.
The pelvic floor is made up of two sets of muscles: one set that helps control bowel movements; another set that helps control urination. When these muscles weaken or become too tight, they can cause problems such as incontinence (involuntary loss of urine), pelvic pain or sex difficulties.
Her IUD could be causing her vagina to feel “loose”
First of all, let me say that IUDs are great birth control methods and very safe. They are one of the most effective forms of contraception out there — they’re more than 99 percent effective at preventing pregnancy. But they’re not without side effects.
One of the most common side effects of an IUD is that it can cause a change in your girlfriend’s vaginal tissue, which may make you feel like it’s loose or stretched out. It’s actually pretty common among women who have been using birth control pills for long periods of time (or other hormonal methods).
The good news is that while you may feel like your girlfriend’s vagina has changed, it hasn’t really changed at all. There isn’t any permanent damage being done to her body by having a hormonal IUD implanted in her uterus; this feeling will go away when she gets the IUD removed.
Top Sex Tips
Even while it’s quite natural for a vagina to feel loose, it might have an impact on your sex life. Here are a few tips that can help you enhance pleasures with your partner so you both can enjoy sex.
1) Try different sex positions
When a woman is turned on, her vaginal walls relax and become slippery with lubrication. However, some sexual positions can cause your girlfriend to experience sensations of looseness as a result of friction between her pubic bone and anus.
To relieve her, try having sex in a different position. But no matter what you do, never use words like loose or slutty to describe how she feels; these words are cruel and unnecessary.
The solution could be as simple as changing your position. Variety is the spice of life, and switching things up could dramatically improve your sex life. Try experimenting with different positions to see if you can reverse or reduce looseness.
For eg: The position Doggy Style often make a woman’s vagina feel tighter than missionary sex and so on. Try changing the position if you think you’re not getting the best results.
2) Incorporate sex toys
You need to experiment with some sex toys if your girlfriend feels loose. If you find any problems during sex life, don’t try to avoid them. In fact, those problems are a signal of a fresh start in your sex life.
When you feel good about each other, it is a good opportunity to explore your sexuality and add something extra like sex toys into your sexual routine. Sex toys will bring some fun while satisfying both of you. The key is to be open-minded and curious.
There are many different kinds of sex toys you can experiment with. These include vibrators, dildos, anal plugs and beads etc. There are a lot of ways to use them: on your own or with your partner, inside her vagina or anus. They add more fun and pleasure to your sexual life.
3) Practice kegel exercises
Kegel exercises can help your girlfriend tighten her vagina. Kegels are pelvic floor muscle exercises that can improve the strength of the muscles that support bladder, uterus and small bowel.
To do Kegels correctly, locate your pelvic floor muscles by stopping the flow of urine when you pee. Tighten those muscles for three seconds and then relax for three seconds. Repeat 10 times in a row, three to five times per day at least once every hour. Over time, you should be able to hold the contraction longer and squeeze harder.
Although Kegels can help tighten a vagina, they don’t work overnight — it takes months to notice results. If you’re concerned with vaginal looseness, talk to your doctor about other options like vaginal rejuvenation surgery or Botox injections into the vaginal muscles (which can also help with urinary incontinence), which have been proven to make a woman’s vagina tighter.
4) Eat probiotic rich foods
The vaginal area is a delicate ecosystem, and it needs to be kept healthy to prevent infections and other complications.
The good news is that your girlfriend can do this naturally by eating probiotic-rich foods. But if she is experiencing vaginal looseness, she may want to consider taking probiotic supplements.
Probiotics work by improving the balance of good bacteria in your body. These good bacteria help keep your digestive tract healthy and reduce inflammation in your body.
Probiotic-rich foods include kefir, yogurt and kombucha tea. If you’re looking for an over-the-counter supplement, look for one that contains Lactobacillus or Bifidobacterium species. These species have been shown to keep vagina healthy.
Takeaway
An important thing to note is that women’s vaginas are less elastic when they are not sexually aroused. They become more elastic — “looser” — the more sexually excited they become. A woman may feel “tighter” to a man when she is less aroused, less comfortable, and having less pleasure than her partner.
It’s completely normal for your girlfriend’s vagina to feel different from day to day.
The sensitive tissue inside there changes based on where she is in her menstrual cycle, how aroused she is, and how much water she has had to drink—plus, it’s influenced by so many other factors that vary from woman to woman.
In other words, don’t worry if your girlfriend’s vagina feels looser than usual one day! It’ll more than likely go back to feeling tight like usual the next.
