Double penetration can seem like an intimidating sex act. Still, if you and your partner have ever thought about trying it, you should know that it’s not all that scary, and that most women who try it report having an extremely pleasurable experience.
Double penetration—having two objects inside of you at the same time—can be thrilling, filling, and fun. And while it’s not exactly an every day occurrence in most people’s sex lives, it can make sex with your partner more satisfying than ever.
Don’t fret, though – with this handy guide to double penetration, you’ll be able to learn how to do it right, giving your partner and yourself the pleasure you crave while keeping both of you safe and satisfied.
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What is double penetration?
In basic terms, double penetration (also known as DP) means having two objects simultaneously in your vagina and anus.
Many people think of it as a form of sex play that involves using dildos and vibrators during intercourse. But double penetration can also refer to anal stimulation—and anal penetration is exactly what it sounds like: when someone inserts their penis into your anus.
A common misconception about double penetration is that it requires more than one partner. This isn’t necessarily true. While it’s possible to have both vaginal and anal penetration at once, it’s also entirely possible to double penetrate without an additional phallus.
For example, if your partner uses their fingers in your vagina while penetrating your anus with their penis, you’re experiencing double penetration. It’s important to note that some people enjoy double penetration because of how intense it can feel and not because it involves more than one partner.
So if you’re thinking about trying DP for yourself, here’s what you need to know. Physiology of DP
To understand what it feels like to have sex with two guys at once (or group sex), we need to start with a primer on how our bodies work. During sexual arousal, blood flow increases into your pelvic region. This causes your clitoris and vulva to swell in size and become increasingly sensitive, making it easier for you to orgasm.
The same happens when you are aroused by penetration alone or during vaginal intercourse. But there’s a key difference: You’re also being penetrated anally with double penetration. And while anal play can be incredibly pleasurable, it is also different from vaginal stimulation in many ways.
Also, because of its location, anal penetration has a more significant potential to stimulate your G-spot—the area located about three inches inside your vagina that, when stimulated, can lead to female ejaculation.
What does double penetration feels like for women?
Double penetration is an extraordinary feeling that’s often been described as intensely pleasurable—as if every inch of your body is aroused at once.
If you are a heterosexual woman, double penetration might feel a little weird because there are two penises inside you instead of one, but they will most likely still feel good because they’re stimulating your G-spot and other erogenous zones.
In fact, some women report that DP makes them come more quickly than any other sexual activity. There’s also a sense of pressure on your cervix, which can be very intense for some people. And depending on how close together you have your partners penetrate you, there may be friction against both sides of your vaginal walls—which can either be uncomfortable or highly pleasurable.
The feelings are different for everyone, though. It’s worth noting that not everyone loves DP; some people prefer to engage in threesomes without engaging in double penetration.
Does DP Hurt?
If you’re new to double penetration, it might take a little getting used to. If it’s your first time doing DP or have never had anal sex before, you may feel some pain and discomfort.
The truth is that it really depends on a lot of different factors. If you start out with smaller toys like anal beads or butt plugs and gradually work your way up in size (or vice versa), DP shouldn’t cause any significant pain for most people—and definitely shouldn’t be unbearable.
It can feel intense at first because there are two things moving inside you at once, but over time you’ll get used to it. That said, everyone is different; some people experience more discomfort than others.
Tips for your first DP sex
The process of double penetration is not tricky, but it does require planning and a bit of setup. Whether you’re using a toy or your partner’s penis(es), here are some general tips for how to double penetrate.
Use good toys
Introducing sex toys into your vaginal or anal sex life may seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. Start with a small and simple dildo, butt plug or vibrator, and work your way up from there. By experimenting alone first, you can decide what works best for you before bringing another person in on the fun. You can even try inserting two toys at once!
A good place to start is with a cock ring. These rings are designed to help men maintain their erection for more extended periods, making double penetration possible even if one partner isn’t as ready as another.
Sterilize your toys
When it comes to double penetration, make sure all your toys are sterilized and that they don’t have any hair or skin on them. That way, you don’t have to worry about either of you getting an infection. We know it seems like common sense, but double penetration is still a pretty rare and exciting act, so it’s easy to forget basic safety measures.
Just make sure that your toys are clean and free from cracks or tears before using them for DP. For example, if you’re going to use two dildos, make sure they aren’t touching each other or sharing any surface area; if one has cracks in it, then there could be bacteria transfer between them.
Use plenty of lube
Lube is one of those things that we often forget about when we get excited. But without it, sex can feel pretty painful. This can be a problem for women in particular because vaginal tearing or ripping during sex is actually more common for them than men (they have less natural lubrication and are typically smaller than their partners).
We suggest using a water-based lubricant like ID Glide or Sliquid Silk—they won’t damage latex condoms or prevent sperm from reaching an egg during sex. However, oil-based lubes can break down latex, so they aren’t safe to use with condoms.
Plus, oil-based lubes tend to dry out faster than water-based ones do; when you don’t have enough lube on hand, sex can become uncomfortable very quickly.
Have an Orgasm First
If you’re a woman, make sure that you have an orgasm before your partner enters you with a dildo or his penis. There are two reasons why orgasming beforehand is important. Firstly, it relaxes your vaginal muscles and makes penetration more comfortable and enjoyable.
Secondly, orgasming improves lubrication—the lack of which can make double penetration painful rather than pleasurable. So, if you want to enjoy double penetration without any pain, try having an orgasm first.
You may find it difficult to climax when your partner has penetrated you, but there are many things you can do to help yourself get there. For example, if you’re using a dildo on yourself, use slow strokes and firm pressure until you feel like you’re about to come; then insert your partner’s penis inside of you and let him thrust until he comes (or vice versa). That way, once one orgasm has subsided, another will be close behind!
Take Breaks if Needed
If you’re trying double penetration for the first time, it’s okay if you need a break between. Being penetrated anally and vaginally takes practice and is more intense than what most people are used to. Also, different positions can be more or less pleasurable; take breaks during each position if needed so you can fully enjoy yourself.
And don’t forget that using lube helps make all kinds of sex more enjoyable—and doubles as an excellent skin conditioner! The last thing you want is painful anal and vaginal sex.
Try Different Positions
The number one reason that people shy away from double penetration is a fear of discomfort. If you get into different positions, it will be much easier on your body, especially if you’re working with a smaller penis. Try missionary with your partner laying on top of you while they get penetrated vaginally or anally.
The guy who is penetrating you anally can’t be too shy, or he won’t be able to get in. It may be better for you to have him inside you first, then let the other guy penetrate you vaginally.
From there, try other positions like doggy style or sitting up and leaning back against each other while someone penetrates you. Experimenting in different positions can help reduce pain and increase pleasure!
Be Comfortable with Your Body
Even if you’re not ready to be double penetrated, it’s a good idea to be comfortable with your body and your desires. Take some time before you have sex with another person—whether that means masturbating alone or fooling around with a friend—to experiment with what feels good and what you like.
The more confident you are in your sexuality, the better equipped you will be to handle trying something new. And, who knows? Maybe you’ll discover that having sex with two penises is something you really enjoy! If so, go for it!
Final thoughts
Double penetration (DP) can be one of the most pleasurable experiences that a man and his partner can enjoy. It’s very much about letting go and surrendering control, although it’s also not without its challenges.
Because of its popularity, DP is often misunderstood and many people think it’s a form of cheating or an indication that your partner isn’t satisfied with you. It can be an excellent addition to anyone’s sex life when done safely and in good communication with your partner(s). As always, practice safe sex when engaging in multiple partners!
We hope that these tips help you to get both of you ready and willing, so that you can enjoy DP experience together.
