There’s nothing worse than getting mixed signals from someone you like. Whether you’ve just started dating or you’ve been at it a while, the last thing you want to worry about is whether or not a guy is really into you.
Unfortunately, men have the irritating little habit of not expressing their feelings. They also tend to mismatch their actions and words—hence the mixed signals.
Ladies, if we’ve heard it once, we’ve heard it a thousand times: He’s just not that into you. Hell, they’ve even made an entire movie about it! Of course, there’s also the “exception to the rule,” or the guy who’s just a bit gun shy.
So, how do you sift through all the B.S. to figure out if he is into you?
For starters, here are the undeniable signs that he likes you:
1. He’s Persistent
Men are goal-oriented by nature. Of course, not every goal is the same, i.e., serious relationships, casual dating, hookups, etc., so you’ll have to consider the context.
Having said that, when a guy is really into you, he will pursue you. He’ll call, he’ll text, and he’ll initiate plans with you—because he wants to talk to you and he wants to see you.
Of course, that’s not to say that you shouldn’t make the first move. When he’s really into you, the phone works both ways—he’ll respond to your calls and texts with gusto, and he’ll jump at the chance to see you again.
2. His Body Language Will Speak for Itself
Some of the most obvious signs he likes you can be seen via his body language. He’ll make constant eye contact with you and lean in closer when you speak.
He’ll find excuses to touch you (bonus points if he holds your hand!) and his feet will always be angled towards you. (yes, it’s true, men will point their feet towards what they want or where they want to go, it’s science).
Oh, he’ll also smile. A lot.
Additionally, his body language will make you feel good. So pay attention to how you feel around him.
3. He’ll Make Future Plans
One of the telltale signs he is interested in you, like, really interested, is if he wants to make future plans. If he’s really into you, he won’t be speaking in abstracts. He’ll make plans with you for the immediate future, such as a day trip somewhere or a fun activity—and he’ll follow up on those plans.
4. He’ll Bring You Into His Life
When a guy isn’t into you, or one of the signs he is fighting his feelings for you is compartmentalization (hello, again mixed signals!) In other words, he’ll keep his life separate from your relationship (or lack thereof).
But when he’s into you, he’ll want to bring you into his life. He’ll introduce you to his friends and family, he’ll take you to his favorite places, and he’ll include you in his hobbies. This is because he wants you to know more about him, and he wants the people in his life to know about you.
5. He Opens Up to You
Another undeniable sign that he’s into you is when he’s his true self around you. This may not happen immediately, as everyone has different comfort levels, but part of being really into someone and getting to know them is allowing them to see the real you.
When this happens, he’ll open up to you and talk about more personal things, like his dreams, for example. Dreams are things that can fail, so by telling you about him, he’s there’s some risk involved.
This means he trusts you enough to be vulnerable around you. It also means he wants a deeper connection with you. If he isn’t into you, you’ll be able to pick up pretty quickly that he’s not being real with you.
6. He’ll Want You to Open Up to Him
Trust us when we say that if a guy really likes you, he won’t be doing all the talking. He’ll ask you plenty of questions about yourself and encourage you to open up to him because he genuinely wants to get to know you.
He’ll do whatever it takes to make you feel more comfortable around him, and you’ll have his undivided attention the entire time.
7. He’s There for You
One of the signs he cares about you is when he is there for you. He’ll show you that he cares about your needs by listening to you, taking your feelings into account, and making the appropriate compromises. Most importantly, he’ll do these things because he wants to, not because you demanded them from him.
He’ll also be there when you need him. Even if it means dropping everything he’s doing to come to help you with something—no matter how big or small. Guys don’t do that for someone they’re just having a casual fling with.
He’ll Let You Know…
What it all boils down to, is that when a guy really wants to be with you, you’ll know, because he’ll make it clear with both his actions and words. You won’t have to wonder or guess, because you’ll feel secure about the way things are going. In fact, you won’t have time to wonder or guess because the two of you will be too busy spending time together and making plans!
So, if you find yourself overanalyzing and agonizing over his every move and text, unsure of what it all means or when you’ll even see him again, chances are he’s sending mixed signals your way. Mixed signals usually mean exactly what you think they mean—he’s just not that into you.
Now that you know the undeniable signs that he likes you, you won’t have to analyze anything. Having said that, remember this: Don’t spend all your time focusing on whether or not he likes you. Make sure that you actually like him. Pay attention to how he makes you feel because the goal is to be in a happy and healthy relationship—not just one that looks good on paper.