BDSM Collar Buyer’s Guide

Slave collar, sex collar, sex slave collar and BDSM collar, even BSDM sex collar or BDSM slave collar, are all different names for the same thing: collars, much like dog collars that fasten around the neck, usually the of the more submissive or less controlling partner of a relationship which may or may not be sexual. Not many people realise this, assuming that all bondage, pet play and furry relationships must, at their base, be sexual in nature.

It is certainly true that most are sexual, but not all are, and often, even the sexual elements are focused on the distribution of power in the relationship. Collars, therefore, are more a sign of willingness to submit to the other, or – when given to the partner – a sign that the dominant partner wants to take the power dynamic to the next level.

The use of a BDSM slave collar in such a relationship is more than just a garment or an accessory: it represents the relationship in a meaningful way, in the way an engagement ring represents the relationship between an affianced couple. Of course, a sex collar may not always be understood by those outside the lifestyle, so sometimes discretion will need to be practised as to when and where the BDSM collar should be worn.

What Makes the Best BDSM collar?

A BDSM slave collar can be made from many materials: metal, fabric, strapping, leather and more. Which one is best depends on what you are wanting from your BDSM collar – do you want just restraint, with comfort and no bruising? Or are you looking for something a bit more intense that allows the master to leave his or her mark on their slave? If the latter is true, then the sex collar must be quite tight, fairly rigid and also come with a fail-safe quick release in case things go a bit too far, as can happen with choking or breath play.

How to Have Fun

The best way to have fun with a sex collar is to start with an open mind! Read up a little on what a BDSM collar means and the associated etiquette. Always be safe when playing in ways that can potentially be dangerous – use a safe word, practise and double check any knots, and understand that when your sub puts on the BDSM collar, you are one hundred percent responsible for their life.

With that out of the way, having fun with a BDSM collar is like any toy – what you do with it is only limited by your imagination and the laws of physics! Begin using the sex collar during intercourse and make it a rule that the master only can touch the BDSM collar.

He or she can tug their slave towards them, or away; make them wait or urge them onwards. Use the D-ring or O-ring that comes as standard with almost every sex collar to attach extra restraints, leashes and even toys to explore your bodies – or to resist exploration to build even more delicious suspense.