Reading about healthy sex and new ways to experience pleasure is an effective means of improving your overall sex life. There’s a lot of information available about the “g-spot,” but most aren’t even aware of the mysterious “u-spot.” So, what is it, and how can you stimulate it?
The U Spot is an external erogenous zone around the urethra, below the clitoris. It’s a U or V-shape, just near the urethral opening. This spot gets its name from the urethra, the hole from which you urinate. Stimulate the U Spot with lubricated finger taps, strokes, licks, or a vibrator.
This article will cover the basics of the U spot—what it is, where it is, and how to incorporate U spot play into your sexy times. Keep reading to learn how to find and stimulate your U spot for a new kind of pleasure!
What Is the U Spot?
It’s normal to be skeptical every time the internet mentions a new, elusive “spot” that arouses people—but the U Spot is a very real thing.
The U Spot is the tissue just above and around the urethra (the urine hole where women “squirt,” also known as female ejaculation). It is located under the clitoris and forms a U or V-shape. When touched, this sensitive area can create pleasurable sensations for women, leading to orgasm.
Technically, everyone with a urethra has a U spot, no matter what their genitals look like. Most people, however, refer to the U Spot as an area of the vulva. With that in mind, this article will write about the female U Spot—sorry fellas!
To learn more about stimulating the male urethra, also called “sounding,” I have a handy guide all about it.
Given how close the urethra is to the clitoris and vagina, it shouldn’t surprise you that it’s full of sensitive nerve endings. And like most sensitive parts of your body, you can use those nerve endings for pleasure and pain, or maybe a bit of both.
Where Is the U Spot?
Before seeking out the U Spot, let’s discuss some basic female anatomy. If you were to look at the female genitalia head-on, you would see (from top to bottom):
The U Spot sits in between the clitoris and the urethra. Find it by lubricating your fingers and trailing the fingers down from the clitoris. The urethra is a tiny hole, and around it are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings that create pleasurable sensations during sex and foreplay.
Many women find the U Spot very pleasurable when touched gently. Some women may even orgasm from the U Spot. Women may stimulate it themselves, or incorporate it into sexual routines with a partner.
How To Find Your U Spot
Want to know what all the hype is about? See if you can orgasm from your U Spot using these five easy steps:
- Apply a water-based lube to your fingertips.
- Find your clitoris.
- Trace your fingers down from your clitoris to the urethra. If you reach the vaginal opening, you’ve gone too far.
- Touch the urethra (you may need to move your labia aside to find it).
- Touch the tissue around the outside of the urethra—that’s the U Spot!
If you’re having trouble identifying the different parts of your genitals, you can sit cross-legged on your bed and use a mirror.
Once you’ve found your U Spot on your own, try asking your partner to help you reach it the next time you have sex. You can direct his hands and show him what you do and don’t like as he further explores your body.
How To Safely Stimulate the U Spot
Whether you’re by yourself or with a partner, the U Spot holds a lot of potential for fun in the bedroom. Before you start stimulating this sensitive area, however, here are some tips for how to do so safely.
Use Water-Based Lube
This erogenous zone is super sensitive, and it responds best to gentle, lubricated touches. Make sure to lube up the entire vulva and vagina area before diving into U Spot play. It doesn’t matter if you’re using fingers, a penis, or a toy—lube is a must.
When using a toy, be sure to choose a water-based lube so you don’t damage the material.
Keep the lube handy on your nightstand and reapply it as needed while exploring your U Spot. Water-based lube tends to dry out quickly, so you may need to add more for a longer, drawn-out U Spot love session.
Urinate After Sexual Acts
It’s important to urinate after sex to reduce your risk of infection—and this rule goes beyond penis-in-vagina penetrative sex. Any time your vulva, clitoris, or vagina are explored, you need to urinate to eliminate any potential bacteria that could lead to a urinary tract infection. Peeing is especially important after U Spot stimulation.
UTIs are no joke. The female urethra is located very close to the vagina and anus, making it easy for bacteria from the sex organs and GI tract to enter the urinary tract. When you stimulate your U Spot, bacteria on your fingers, penis, or toys can travel into your urethra. If left untreated, the infection can be very painful.
If you’re unable to urinate after sex, try drinking a glass of water before and after sex to help you pee once you’re done.
How To Have Fun With Your U Spot
So, you’re lubed up, fully hydrated, and ready to play with your U Spot—now what? Here are some ways that you can stimulate your U Spot for a whole new brand of pleasure:
- Start with extremely gentle touches, like stroking and tapping. Once you get acclimated to that, you can try firmer touches and light pressure.
- Ask your partner to try stimulating your U spot during oral. Soft licks can feel amazing on the U Spot! Try to refrain from sucking or doing anything that could create too much pressure, though.
- Experiment with using a toy! A gentle vibrator would work best–this is not the time to use your high-powered wand. Check out my recommendations for the best finger vibrators if you don’t have one already. The Lovehoney Ignite is especially amazing, and you can adjust the speed and pattern to fit your preferences. Clitoral sucking vibrators are also great options.
- Try rubbing your vulva with a penis or dildo. Take the head of the penis and run it between your labia, from your vaginal opening up to your clit and down again. This up-and-down motion will stimulate your U spot over and over.
Since most forms of sex involve a lot of attention to the clitoris and vagina, it’s easy to give a little love to the space in between. Just tell your partner what you do and don’t like, and be vocal when something feels good. You’ll be experiencing all kinds of incredible sensations in no time.
How To Orgasm From the U Spot
The U Spot has the potential to feel really good, but can it make you climax? The answer is a little complicated.
Everybody is different, so not everyone can achieve an orgasm from U Spot stimulation alone—and that’s okay! We all require a different kind of touch to achieve the big O.
The U Spot is incredibly sensitive. Some women find that the U spot is too sensitive and can be painful to touch directly. But other women love U Spot stimulation and find that it can give them mind-blowing orgasms.
Some folks enjoy having their U Spot touched, even if it won’t bring them over the edge. Like other erogenous zones, the U Spot can increase arousal and give pleasure without leading to an orgasm.
Maybe you’re one of the lucky ladies who can have a U Spot orgasm. Maybe not. Just listen to your body and do what feels best for you.
The tissue around your urethra is full of sensitive nerves that are just waiting for you to explore. Use lube, go slow and gentle, and don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you do and don’t like.
Whether you orgasm from U Spot stimulation or not, it’s worth it to try—you might find that it increases your overall sensations, even without climax. Give it a chance and add it to your repertoire of fun things to do in the bedroom!