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Asking for a blowjob might seem like an easy thing to do; however, most men don’t know how to ask for a blowjob without turning their partner off or hurting their feelings.

Lots of people like having oral sex- either providing or receiving. Some folks despise it. Some people prefer different types of sex, such as vaginal intercourse, anal sex, utilizing a sex toy, or exploring BDSM.

You don’t have to suffer in silence anymore, no more begging to receive an erotic, earth-shattering bj. If you like oral sex and want to experience it, you should express your wishes to your partner.

With that in mind, I will share the dirty little secrets of asking for a blowjob up next.

The Best Way to Ask for a Blowjob

Perhaps you feel uncomfortable being straight up about asking for a bj. Or, maybe you want to be more open about your sexual desires towards your partner but are not quite sure how to go about it.

So what should you do? Here are some tips on how to ask for a blowjob politely without upsetting your date or girlfriend.

Have A Casual Conversation

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Pursue a casual chat before things get too hot and steamy. In fact, it’s beneficial for your sex life to be a continuous conversation — one that happens outside of the bedroom while you’re completely dressed.

Starting the conversation with something like, “I enjoy oral sex; would you be comfortable giving it a shot?” Other alternatives might be, “It’s difficult for me to orgasm without oral sex” and “How do you feel about going down on me more frequently?”.

I would suggest beginning with a good aspect of your relationship for the love birds out there, including your sexual connection. Make use of feeling words and ‘I’ expressions to avoid putting your partner on the defensive.

Try to approach this discussion with an open mind. If your lover is hesitant to give you oral sex, pay attention to their worries. Have they ever had a traumatic encounter with oral sex?

Knowing where they’re coming from may help you feel more open to concentrating on other sexual acts instead, such as using a sex device meant to simulate oral sex.

Alternatively, you can spice things up by combining your proposal with naughty banter is most likely the most entertaining way to go about it. Tell your partner, “I keep getting turned on thinking about you going down on me.”

Do whatever comes naturally to you. But remember, If there’s one thing that turns a lady on, it’s a confident man. Confidence is the epitome of sexiness.

Don’t Be Oblivious

Why am I saying this? Because women love sex, sometimes more than men!

Men are very open about how much they love sex. For women, though, these things are usually only revealed to a partner they feel completely open with.

But, I must add that more and more women are getting comfortable with talking about sex openly with friends and partners. And if you guys heard the conversations between women, well, you would get turned on!

Don’t mistake categorizing women as saints who only engage in sex to keep their men happy or get kids. It’s time you start realizing women are sexual too.

Most confident men already know this secret, and they are using it to their advantage. Or, at least, they do know that women love to have sex with them.

Now that you know that most ladies love sex, why don’t you let her make the first move? The brave or more comfortable ladies out there will just blurt it out!

Boost Her Confidence

Women can be self-conscious about their blow job skills and abilities. It’s not only men who have to worry whether they’ve got the moves to satisfy a woman. Women also worry about whether they are good enough when giving head.

And women don’t always employ the best techniques while giving oral sex. This might be due to a lack of communication, experience, or guidance.

A woman might want nothing more than to provide a great blowjob to her partner but will frequently compare herself to his previous partners; they will feel pressure to perform like pornstars, and a string of questions will go through her head.

Most women will be wondering if you are even attracted to her or if she will get you to orgasm- trust me, there is nothing worse than sucking for hours, and the volcano isn’t ready to explode.

So, boost her confidence and give her some guidelines on what feels good when it comes to a blow job. Remember – communication is a very important part of a sexual relationship!

Give Her Feedback

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As mentioned, women are conscious of their skills. You can help alleviate her fears by giving her some feedback.

Encourage her by cooing and moaning when she does something right. Talk to her, direct her as she’s going about her, well, your business. Don’t forget to compliment her.

Don’t just lie still while receiving a blowjob. Try running your fingers through her hair and giving her a head massage. Or you can even try stimulating her nipples, which are a fantastic erogenous zone.

Any sex act is an intimate moment between you and your partner. Make this more enjoyable for her by maintaining eye contact. Yes, it’s difficult, but it is both hot and romantic.

It Takes Two to Tango

Men, do you ever go down South? If you haven’t already, you should get started. Giving oral sex is like tango. If you go down on her, chances are she will repay the favor.

Eating your lady out is a proven technique to get blow jobs, most of the time without even moving your lips. But, of course, she’ll want to return the treat as soon as she has reality-shattering orgasms from your fingering and tongue movement on her clitoris.

You can also try the 69 sex position so that you can both gratify each other at the same time, or even incorporate using other sex toys such as blowjob toys to enhance the sensations such as the Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage masturbator.

Remember how I said before that ladies like sex? This is when it comes in handy. Rock her socks off, destroy her headboard if necessary, but give her earth-shattering orgasms frequently.

Allow her to feel sexually liberated and at ease around you. Allow that tiny bloom to grow and thrive.

Don’t Be Gross!

Let’s face it, sex, in general, can be sticky, slimy, and straight-up sweaty! Don’t make it any grosser than it already is.

For example, women will avoid licking sweaty balls. Poor personal hygiene is a surefire way to turn her off and blow your future advances out the window.

If you are anticipating getting a blow job, take a shower! Personal hygiene is important, fellas! And perhaps try out some ‘manscaping’ – to tidy things up a little down there.

Give Her A Heads Up

No pun intended! This is an important final thing to consider when it comes to blowjob etiquette.

Sometimes a blow job can get pretty intense, and you lose all sense of time and place. Before you start curling your toes in ecstasy, and before you release your load- warn her.

Alert her to your impending explosion. It’s important to discuss where you will finish beforehand.

Conclusion

So, there we have it! I hope you learned more about how to ask for a blowjob politely. From reading this bj bible and becoming comfortable with the contents, I hope you can ask for a bj in a respectful and confident way!

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